snowman
Diamond
- Joined
- Jul 31, 2004
- Location
- Southeast Michigan
Dad's out at Mayo. He has a primary colorectal tumor that has gotten so large that it has engulfed the spine at the level of the sacrum. This is his second bout with colorectal cancer. His first was 16 years ago, and it is NOT felt that this is a met, but it is unknown if it is a reoccurance or new cancer. On initial visit to Mayo, surgery wouldn't even meet with him, but after his case went in front of the tumor board, they have changed their tune. The news now is much of what I was expecting. If he becomes a surgical candidate, the two day multi-specialty surgery will very likely leave him a paraplegic. His initial reaction was to start crying, and then shortly after picked up his head and said "I've got a four year old granddaughter that I want to see grow up, if this is the way it is, I'll figure it out". It's the first time I've known him to have that much fight this time around. The first knocked him back pretty bad, with multiple complications and quite a few surgical revisions since.
As it is, the doctors have already told him that due to the involvement of this tumor in his spine, they are surprised he has the mobility he does.
I've already quit my job to help out as much as I can, switched my life back to selling on Ebay and making my own products so I can have a flexible schedule. I'm just now looking around the house going "holy shit"...realizing all of the changes that would have to be made if we make it to the surgery. (dependent upon the success of the chemo)
The biggest challenge in my eyes is the emotional transition, and mom has already said that he'll start seeing a therapist soon to actually come to terms with the changes he has experienced, and will have to experience.
Mom is tired, and doesn't know how much she can handle...which is very understandable given what he's been through already, with her at his side.
I'm a listen and think, and think, and analyze and research...and I found out yesterday, so I'm bouncing back through all the stages. I'm just curious if any of you have faced something similar, as I'm curious what the biggest challenges you faced were.
As it is, the doctors have already told him that due to the involvement of this tumor in his spine, they are surprised he has the mobility he does.
I've already quit my job to help out as much as I can, switched my life back to selling on Ebay and making my own products so I can have a flexible schedule. I'm just now looking around the house going "holy shit"...realizing all of the changes that would have to be made if we make it to the surgery. (dependent upon the success of the chemo)
The biggest challenge in my eyes is the emotional transition, and mom has already said that he'll start seeing a therapist soon to actually come to terms with the changes he has experienced, and will have to experience.
Mom is tired, and doesn't know how much she can handle...which is very understandable given what he's been through already, with her at his side.
I'm a listen and think, and think, and analyze and research...and I found out yesterday, so I'm bouncing back through all the stages. I'm just curious if any of you have faced something similar, as I'm curious what the biggest challenges you faced were.