"Standard pin size"??? I have worked my entire career in electronics and can tell you there is no standard pin size. Even connectors in the same series from the same manufacturer can have different size pins.
Just an example is those ever-popular DA, DB, DC, DD, and DE connectors. There are at least two sizes of plain pins for them and a number of others that include coaxial male and female inserts.
Good sources for the pin extraction tools are the electronic supply houses: Digi-Key, Mouser, Newark, etc. They can help you to ID the connector you have and the tool you need. Most professional connectors will have the OEM's name and perhaps an ID number in the body that holds the pins. Break out a magnifying glass and look.
Those pins look like they have been crimped before insertion. They are almost certainly inserted from the rear. The extraction tool usually, but not always, is used from the front. You could try just rolling up some shim stock and sliding it into the front while tugging at the pin from the rear. An improvised tool like this can also be used from the rear as it can fit over the wire if it is still in the pin. Rear extraction tools will have a slit cylinder construction so they can be slipped over an existing wire.
